{"id":1272,"date":"2021-10-14T13:42:57","date_gmt":"2021-10-14T17:42:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/?p=1272"},"modified":"2021-11-14T17:45:11","modified_gmt":"2021-11-14T22:45:11","slug":"ruben-the-squirrel-the-boston-marathon-bombing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/?p=1272","title":{"rendered":"Ruben the Squirrel &#038; the Boston Marathon bombing"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Something extraordinary happened to me in the spring of 2013. I found a squirrel. Or rather, the squirrel found me. It\u2019s not all that uncommon, it turns out, but it sure felt special at the time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It all started on April 16th. In the afternoon, I biked to pianist Simone Dinnerstein\u2019s house, in Park Slope, to play some of Bach&#8217;s <em>Goldberg Variations<\/em> for her. She generously shared her insights into the piece, and I came away feeling inspired. It was a gorgeous day. I took the most direct route home afterwards, through Prospect Park, on my bike. In the middle of the park, there\u2019s a narrow, paved trail that cuts through the woods and connects the western and eastern sides. It rises from the Park Slope side, and then plunges steeply down to the Flatbush side.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I reached the top of the ridge, right before the descent, I spotted a small animal by the side of the trail. I was biking slowly, and the strange thing was that as I approached, the animal \u2014 a squirrel, I could see now \u2014 didn\u2019t run away. It almost seemed to come towards me. I put my bike down. As I approached on foot, it looked up at me and took a shy step in my direction. I couldn\u2019t believe it. I slowly put my hand down to touch it, and it didn\u2019t budge, instead looking up at me with huge eyes, eyes that belonged to a very young squirrel.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"2560\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-scaled.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1282\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-scaled.jpeg 1920w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5423-1536x2048.jpeg 1536w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Not a baby, but an adolescent, perhaps. It wasn\u2019t long before I picked him up. At that point, other passers-by were watching too. This little guy was disarmingly cute. He quickly found his way inside my loose-fitting sweater and wouldn\u2019t come back out. It dawned on me that he might have been cold. I noticed after a few minutes that his muzzle was covered in something that looked like dried mud. Other than that, he seemed in good health. After a while, my friend Ruben called me on my cell phone. I told him what was going on and he asked \u201cwell, have you named him yet?\u201d \u201cNo, I just found him five minutes ago!\u201d I replied. \u201cWell I think you should give him a nice Jewish name,\u201d he said. Inspiration struck: \u201cHow about Ruben?\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424-768x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1289\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424-1536x2048.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5424.jpeg 1662w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>My newly-christened Ruben was becoming increasingly friendly, but I couldn\u2019t keep him, obviously, and the sun was starting to get low. So I put him down. Only thing was, he wouldn\u2019t leave. He came right back to my feet, put his paws on my shoes, and looked up imploringly. I started to wonder what I had gotten myself into. Clearly this was a young squirrel that had somehow lost its mother, and it had imprinted on me as a possible new protector. But I\u2019m a touring musician! The last thing I can do is keep a squirrel. I called an animal rescue center in Brooklyn \u2014 it was right before 7pm. The guy on the other end said \u201cput him back. He\u2019s what we call a dumb baby: he hasn\u2019t learned to be afraid of humans yet.\u201d So I put him back again. But he kept coming back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-768x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1311\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-1536x2048.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5427-2-scaled.jpeg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The fact that he was utterly irresistible didn\u2019t make this any easier. Other people came and went, giving their little pieces of advice: \u201cif I were you I\u2019d keep away from that animal \u2014 you never know what diseases it might be carrying\u201d. A quick search on my phone gave the official word back: small rodents, in the United States, are not considered a rabies risk. One couple came by and the husband said he\u2019d grown up on a farm and had had abandoned squirrel babies come up to him a number of times, but his dad usually forbade him to keep them. He had raised one or two, though, feeding them milk and \u2014 he said \u2014 cat food. The only essential thing, he said, was to keep the animal hydrated. Make sure it drinks, and it&#8217;ll live.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2-856x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1302\" width=\"428\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2-856x1024.jpeg 856w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2-251x300.jpeg 251w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2-768x919.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2-1284x1536.jpeg 1284w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5429-2.jpeg 1556w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 428px) 100vw, 428px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Again I tried to put Ruben back. This time, he climbed about 4 feet up the closest tree, but just as I thought our story might be ending, he turned around and ran right back to my feet. Again the imploring eyes; I picked him back up. I was alone and in a true quandary: I definitely, no way, could have a pet squirrel. I was a fiercely independent guy. I did manage to water my plants, and I did manage to keep the humidifier in my piano full most of the time, but other than that I had very few real responsibilities outside of my music. And I liked it that way. But this little guy just wouldn\u2019t leave me alone, and the more time I spent with him \u2014 perhaps 45 minutes at this point \u2014, the more I liked him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just as I was standing there with Ruben in my arms, a woman about my age appeared. She was in running gear, staring up at a branch hanging in mid-air, suspended by some kind of string attached to a tree above. Some unknown sequence of events, perhaps involving a helium balloon, had led to this. I asked her if she knew anything about squirrels, which must have come across as an odd pick-up line, until she saw that I was actually holding a squirrel in my arms. No, she said. But her curiosity was piqued and she loved holding him. We started talking. After a while I asked her what she did for a job. \u201cI\u2019m an actress, she said, and I teach French\u201d. \u201cAh, tu parles fran\u00e7ais?\u201d, I asked. Her English had been totally unaccented till then.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She answered in perfect French, only one of perhaps five people I\u2019ve met in my life who speaks unaccented English and French. It turned out that she had grown up in Paris, not too far from where I grew up, on the eastern side. Her dad was American, her mom French. And then there was this: we had both gone to the same high school, a big one on the eastern edge of Paris called H\u00e9l\u00e8ne Boucher, and \u2014 we disbelievingly realized \u2014 had actually overlapped there by one whole year. Her name was Justine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This was just too much. Too many unlikely events for one day. It was dark by now. I needed to put Ruben back. So I climbed over the fence separating the trail from the woods, walked ten feet in, and put him down. I walked back to the trail. Ten seconds later he was at my feet again. \u201cYou\u2019re going to have to take him home, you know\u201d, said Justine. Let\u2019s make sure he doesn\u2019t want to stay here, I said. I climbed back over the fence, Justine handed Ruben to me, and I walked a good fifty feet into the woods. I walked back, fast, to the trail. But something made me want to make sure that he was going to be all right. If his mother had abandoned him, after all, if he had fallen out of his nest onto his nose (which would possibly explain the caked mud covering his muzzle), he might not make it alone. Justine and I waited for about a minute, and sure enough, there he was again. He had followed me back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHow about we have a drink while I decide what to do with this guy?\u201d We walked to the east side of the park, to my neighborhood, Lefferts Gardens, and walked into Lincoln Park Tavern, with Ruben hidden under my sweater. As we sat down, I took him out and held him in my hands. He was incredibly docile. Truth is, he seemed exhausted. A waitress came over, saw the little animal and got the manager, who promptly shoed us out of the restaurant, explaining that the whole place could be shut down if a rodent were found inside. But she wouldn\u2019t let us leave without having us take a picture of her with Ruben. Turns out she\u2019d wanted to hold a squirrel in her hands since she was a little girl.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-1024x768.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1283\" width=\"512\" height=\"384\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-1024x768.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-1536x1152.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5434-2048x1536.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The only other option was my apartment. We stopped at the local bodega on the way and I bought an eye dropper and some cat food. At my place, I found a cardboard box full of packing paper and put him in there. Then I emptied the eye dropper, washed it out and filled it with water. Ruben was hesitant at first, but he drank, at least a little. He curled up into a ball and fell asleep. Over tea, Justine told me about her parents, both painters, now divorced with her dad in New York, her mom still in Paris, and she showed me their work online. Both heavyweights. Her younger brother, too, in art school in Chicago and doing some really compelling work. Some of his hand-drawn images looked algorithmic and reminded me of some of the math-based line-drawings I\u2019d made with code.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B-1024x645.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1320\" width=\"512\" height=\"323\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B-1024x645.png 1024w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B-300x189.png 300w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B-768x484.png 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B-1536x968.png 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/LINES7B.png 1699w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Before long, it was time for Justine to leave. I walked her back through the park and brought Ruben with me. She said I had to keep him for at least one night. How many people get to say they brought a squirrel home? But I wanted to try putting him back one more time. I figured that if he scampered off, it meant that he knew he\u2019d survive the night. Perhaps all he&#8217;d needed was a little warmth, and he was now okay. I walked Justine to the west side, and on my way back, tried to set Ruben free again, an act that felt like a well-rehearsed routine at this point. He wouldn\u2019t have it. I brought him home again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-1024x768.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1295\" width=\"512\" height=\"384\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-1024x768.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-1536x1152.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5553-2048x1536.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I put him in the cardboard box, full of paper that he could burrow into, and put the box in the bathtub. Next to it, I put water, cat food, and peanuts. The next morning he seemed to be okay, although he hadn\u2019t eaten any of the things I had left for him. I gave him more water from the eye dropper, then tried to feed him some cow milk I had in the refrigerator, but he was completely uninterested. I left him with some cut-up vegetables and went into Manhattan to take a lesson with Sophia Rosoff, my 92-year-old piano teacher. A couple of days prior, Lee Konitz, the great saxophonist I regularly played with, had expressed an interest in meeting her, and I had arranged a group lesson. It had been a long time since Lee, 85 years old, had been given advice by someone older than him, but he took it gracefully. It was fun. I balanced an egg on its end, something Sophia often had her students do to get them focused and, like the egg, balanced.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-768x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1285\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-1536x2048.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5438-scaled.jpeg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>On the way back I stopped at a pet store and bought Esbilac, special milk formula for puppies that the squirrel websites (of which there are many) had informed me would be good for Ruben, as well as a tiny milk bottle to feed him with, and a mix of nuts and other things especially made for small rodents. When I got back, Ruben drank the milk, which I had warmed-up first, like it was the best thing he\u2019d ever come across. The contrast between his dislike for cow milk and his love for the Esbilac was dramatic. He knew what was good for him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Ruben drinking from the bottle\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/52m7BtQONo0?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>In the following days, he kept drinking milk voraciously, and he also started eating the nut and dried fruit mix that I bought. Friends came by and invariably fell in love with him. Even my friend Mathilde, with her life-long phobia of animals brought on by a childhood dog attack, loved him from afar. She even began to carefully pet him after a while, a major breakthrough for her. Over the course of two days, the caked mud, or whatever it was, that had covered his muzzle when I found him, gradually came off. When I first found him, there had been so much that he couldn\u2019t breathe through his nose and kept sneezing when he drank; then his nostrils cleared, and then big chunks of the gunk started coming off. I had tried cleaning it off myself before, but it was solidly attached, almost like a scab. Sometimes it\u2019s best to let time do the work for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2-768x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1299\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5454-2.jpeg 1536w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>On April 18th and 19th, I traveled to Boston with Ben Wendel for a duo gig. My friend Y-Lan, who I learned had loved squirrels since she was a child and had always longed to hold and play with one, came over regularly to feed him milk. She figured out that he liked licking the milk out of her hand even more than drinking it from the bottle. The feeling of his tongue against one\u2019s skin was particularly lovely.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As this little fairy tale was unfolding in my Brooklyn apartment, Boston was in a state of emergency \u2014 the marathon there had been attacked in the most vicious of ways, with two pressure cooker bombs right at the finish line, on Monday, the day before I found Ruben. Ben and I had considered cancelling our gig, but decided that playing music in the city, as well as we could, would be the most meaningful way for us to help. I tried to say a few words about that during the concert: in many ways, it wasn\u2019t the casualties that were most appalling in the attack (three people died, a hundred were injured; small numbers compared to the number of people killed, for example, in car accidents every year) but rather the sheer evil of it: it was so hard to imagine why anyone would want to hurt people at something as peaceful as&nbsp;a foot race. It just seemed so gratuitous. And for it to follow, only a few months later and not so far away, the murders of twenty children by a lone gunman at Sandy Hook Elementary School, including the six-year-old daughter of jazz saxophonist Jimmy Greene, whom I&#8217;d played with not so long before\u2026 It was horrifying. Even though it was only&nbsp;a few people who were committing these crimes, it tested your faith in humanity.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-1024x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1307\" width=\"512\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-1536x1536.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5447-2048x2048.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>While Ben and I were playing that night, at a venue I often played when I lived in Boston called the Lily Pad, gun shots were fired on the MIT campus, only a few blocks away. We learned about this right after the gig, virtually as the audience was applauding. A cop had been murdered, one of the two young brothers who were the suspects in the bombing had been shot, and the other, all of nineteen years old, was on the run. After the gig, we moved to an Irish pub next door; an amazingly good traditional Irish band was playing, and after a while a young woman got up on a table and danced, quite beautifully. The strange thing was witnessing this intersection of art and violence: we all knew what was going on outside \u2014 perhaps the closest thing I\u2019ve experienced to a war zone in my absurdly sheltered life \u2014 yet here we were, making music, listening to music, dancing. It gave me a hint of an inkling of a glimpse of what it might have been like to be living in London during the Second World War: people going about their daily business, still making music and dancing, as bombs rained down at regular intervals from German warplanes overhead. Not to speak of the too-many warzones still active around the world today. I suddenly realized, in a visceral way that put any intellectual understanding to shame, how much we in the rich West take our safety for granted. We feel entitled to be able to live our lives without constant threats of violence, but we entirely forget how much of a historical anomaly our extended period of peace \u2014 75 years without war in Western Europe \u2014 has been. Four years&nbsp;earlier, I had played a series of solo concerts through the Republic of Georgia, including a gig \u2014 to which we had to be escorted by armored UN convoy \u2014 in Abkhazia, the separatist region in the Northwest of the country. Five short months after I&#8217;d been there, the whole country was at war again, Russia sending troops in to fuel the separatist flames. This peace we know isn\u2019t normal, I realized; it\u2019s a luxury. Above all, we\u2019ve just been lucky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben and I took a cab back to the house where we were staying; the city was eerily quiet. Sirens were blaring and we passed a gas station that had been entirely cordoned off with Do-Not-Cross police tape, on Memorial Drive. It turned out later that the police had surrounded an innocent man there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Meanwhile, Ruben was safe and sound at home in Brooklyn, playing with friends and putting on weight. I stayed up late into the night checking the news; periodically, my friend Y-Lan, who had been watching over Ruben and is a fellow night-owl, would send me pictures and videos of him. I started to feel a new emotion: I realized that I cared about Ruben, I cared about his well-being in a way that went beyond the mere practicality of whether he would live or not, the mere sense of responsibility for another being: there was something fatherly at play, there was love. This took me completely by surprise. It felt like an important moment of self-discovery, one of those moments when we uncover something in ourselves that we didn\u2019t know was there before.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How often do those moments of introspection happen, nowadays? I&#8217;d recently returned from studying bata drums in Cuba, where internet access was scarce and my cell phone didn&#8217;t work. I remembered the static gradually leaving my mind as time wore on. The endless noise surrounding us in our normal lives, I realized, the myriad voices competing for our attention, kept us from finding the quiet within that was so important to actual self-discovery, in Art or otherwise. As human beings, or as animals for that matter, it was only natural that we be addicted to newness: things that are new could be essential to our survival, so if a noise came up behind us, or a friend shared a piece of information, it made sense that we would have evolved to pay attention. But the internet uses our tendency to attribute value to mere newness to trick us into paying attention to things that have no value at all. And as a result, by the time an inner epiphany might start to suggest itself, we&#8217;re unable to notice, because our hunger for discovery, by that point, has been used up. Somehow the arrival of Ruben in my life was centering, making me focus on more important things like the value of life, instead of my Twitter feed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next morning, Boston was on lockdown, all mass transit cancelled. Ben and I got lucky, though: a friend drove us in his car to Providence, and we took a bus from there to New Haven, where we were scheduled to play at the concert space Firehouse 12. Leaving Boston was very strange. The police had told everyone to stay indoors, away from the windows. I\u2019d never seen a city so quiet during daytime in my entire life, and wouldn&#8217;t again until the Covid-19 epidemic eight years later. That evening, as we were playing in New Haven, the second suspect was apprehended, lying near death under a tarp in a small boat in someone\u2019s back yard in Watertown.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over the following days, Ruben kept growing at a surprising rate. He loved being in his cardboard box, and spent an amazing amount of time sleeping. But when I woke him, he was as playful as before, only with more and more energy. He started jumping, like squirrels do. I noticed how big his paws were. He could scamper up and down my whole body as if it were a tree, and as long as I had a T-shirt and jeans on, it didn\u2019t hurt, his claws sharp and delicate at the same time, only digging in as much as they needed to support his light body. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-scaled.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-768x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1301\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-1536x2048.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5476-1-scaled.jpeg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>He was mesmerized by music. I had friends come over a number of times to listen to musical works in progress, and as soon as the music started, he would almost freeze in place, fascinated. I grew up with chinchillas, and I remembered that they reacted to music in a similar way.&nbsp;He once hid inside my piano as I practiced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-1024x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1304\" width=\"512\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-1536x1536.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5484-2048x2048.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>About a week after I found him, Ruben started getting less interested in milk. He was getting weaned. He liked nuts more and more and I loved watching him snatch one from my fingers: as soon as he grabbed it, the nut would monopolize his entire attention, the rest of the world falling away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Ruben eating nuts\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/AWcNZxhag-s?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>He was becoming increasingly squirrelly, nervous and energetic. It didn\u2019t bother me \u2014 in fact I enjoyed seeing him grow into an independently-minded adult, and he never put up a fight when I tried to pick him up \u2014 but it made my friend Y-Lan a little sad. I had a gig in Washington, DC on April 24<sup>th<\/sup>&nbsp;with Allison Miller and Shane Endsley, and she volunteered to take care of him again. He had really changed from a week before, when he was as docile as could be, happily sleeping on her shoulder, his head hidden in her long dark hair, the tip of his nose peeking out. Now he was in constant movement, hard to pin down. One day I was walking in the park and saw an adult squirrel jump gracefully from a tree to another, tail perfectly counterbalancing his body, and I remembered where Ruben was meant to be. Squirrels make notoriously poor pets: they need space and become increasingly high-strung as they get older. They\u2019re known to bite, hard. Ruben only nipped our fingers in a friendly way, never coming close to drawing blood, but I started to think about reintroduction.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>According to my internet rodent sources, rescued squirrels do a great job of readapting to life in the wild (or in a park) if they\u2019re released right as they\u2019re reaching adulthood. This is the moment when a squirrel starts to curve its tail up above its body, in that classic squirrel pose, instead of letting it hang limply behind as they do when they\u2019re young. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1-765x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1308\" width=\"383\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1-765x1024.jpeg 765w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1-224x300.jpeg 224w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1-768x1027.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1-1148x1536.jpeg 1148w, https:\/\/dantepfer.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/IMG_5478-1.jpeg 1196w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 383px) 100vw, 383px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>As April drew to a close, I was scheduled to leave for Japan for a tour with Lee Konitz, and I started to wonder what I should do with Ruben. Right at this moment he started picking his tail up, and although he behaved as fondly towards me as ever, never leaving my body voluntarily once I picked him up, he was increasingly skittish with everyone else. It was time. My only concern was that he would refuse to return, as he had done when I had first met him in the park.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The day before I was scheduled to leave for Japan, I walked through Prospect Park with Ruben tucked into my loose cardigan and a handful of nuts in my pocket. He showed absolutely no interest in leaving. He seemed to prefer, of all available options \u2014 including total freedom, which he could have chosen at any time \u2014, the comfort of my warm body. The thought of leaving him forcefully, of running away, broke my heart. I hedged my bets: I called two old friends who had been coincidentally harboring a very young squirrel of their own \u2014 I had learned this online \u2014 and we arranged to meet the following morning in Prospect Park at the very place where I had initially found Ruben. If he still refused to leave, they would take him home and care for him while I was away. And if all went well and he returned home willingly, the experience would be a welcome preview, for my friends, of what was to come for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So it\u2019s the morning of my flight to Japan. It\u2019s bright, warm and clear, and Ruben is hiding underneath my T-shirt. I\u2019m repeatedly trying, through laughter brought on by the tickle of his paws against my skin, to get him out and onto my hand. After what seems like a while, as my friends stand patiently watching, I finally coax him into sitting, upright, in the palm of my hand, and bring him slowly up against the very tree that he had momentarily climbed two weeks earlier before he had run back to me. Something\u2019s changed. He\u2019s intrigued \u2014 the situation seems to resonate with him in a way that the previous day\u2019s walk hadn\u2019t. He sniffs at the bark of the tree, and then nibbles at it. He cautiously puts a front paw against the bark, then two, then a hind paw. It looks unmistakably like a moment of recognition. I slowly pull my hand away, and suddenly off he goes, straight up the vertical wall of his natural habitat, in what can only be described as a joyously wiry scamper.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Ruben goes home\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6hYVEkricOY?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>And then he stops, and I\u2019m concerned that he\u2019ll change his mind. But it\u2019s only to look back at me, to say goodbye \u2014 or so, at least, it feels. He stops for a few moments, looks back, then moves a few more paces up before stopping to look again. It\u2019s me he\u2019s staring at, not the ground, nor my friends, nor the next tree over. He does this three more times before vanishing for good into the spring foliage. It\u2019s a beautiful day, and Ruben, this spark of life small enough to hold in your hand, who may never know anything outside of my apartment and Prospect Park even as I fly off to Tokyo, is back home.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Something extraordinary happened to me in the spring of 2013. I found a squirrel. Or rather, the squirrel found me. 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